- Years in practice
- 13
- Registration
- BACP
- Languages
- English
- Focus
- Stress, Anxiety
- Focus
- Relationship issues
- Focus
- Family conflicts
About Paula
Paula Kane is a counsellor who focuses on parents and caregivers who feel exhausted, overwhelmed or stuck. She meets people who doubt themselves, struggle to set boundaries, or keep falling into painful relationship patterns. Paula aims to help people feel safer in their bodies and regain a clearer sense of who they are.
She draws on 13 years of experience and a BACP accreditation to shape practical, steady support. Sessions are collaborative and paced to suit each person.
Background and approach
Paula listens without judgement and offers straightforward tools for managing stress, anxiety and trauma responses. Her work often addresses the long shadow left by childhood trauma, domestic or sexual abuse, and harmful relationship dynamics. She explains how trauma can affect thinking and the body, and helps people learn simple ways to reduce anxiety and regain calm.
Paula uses client-centred conversation alongside ideas from attachment theory and cognitive behavioural approaches. She blends mind-body awareness and psychoeducation so people can recognise patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking or shutdown, and make different choices with self-compassion. In sessions she supports practical skills such as boundary setting, emotion regulation, and rebuilding confidence.
The aim is to help people reconnect with their strengths and make changes that fit their everyday lives. Paula works with a wide range of concerns related to parenting, relationships and personal wellbeing in the United Kingdom.
What Paula works with
Everything Paula lists, in their own terms. Parenting is the reason this directory exists; the rest shows what else Paula helps people with.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Self esteem
- Intimacy-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Sleeping disorders
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Depression
- Coping with life changes
- Compassion fatigue
- ADHD
- Abandonment
- Adoption and foster care
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Antisocial personality
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Guilt and shame
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Postpartum depression
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Trichotillomania
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Paula lists
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centred Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each counsellor names and does not check training records.
How Paula uses therapeutic approaches online
Paula commonly integrates attachment-focused work and cognitive behavioural techniques when supporting people online. Attachment-based ideas look at how early relationship patterns influence current trust and connection, helping people notice repeating dynamics and try new ways of relating. Cognitive behavioural work breaks down unhelpful thoughts and behaviours into small steps, offering practical actions and simple experiments to reduce anxiety and improve mood.Finding the right approach is part of the process. Paula works together with each person to choose methods that fit their goals and comfort level. Sessions begin with listening and a shared plan that can change as progress is made, so people feel involved in decisions about their care.
Online therapy offers flexibility that suits busy family lives. Video calls let people read facial cues and use visual materials, while phone sessions need less bandwidth and can be easier to fit into a work break. Live chat or text messaging can be used for shorter check-ins and to reflect between sessions. These options make it easier to keep continuity of care and access support across different locations.
Questions people ask about Paula
What kinds of problems does Paula help with?
She supports people facing stress, anxiety, relationship and parenting challenges, trauma and abuse, low self-esteem, anger, sleep and eating concerns, ADHD and related difficulties.
How would you describe her therapeutic style?
Her style is gentle and collaborative. Sessions combine client-centred listening with practical tools from cognitive behavioural methods and attachment-focused thinking.
What experience does she bring?
Paula has worked in counselling for 13 years, helping people recover from trauma and change unhelpful relationship patterns.
Where is Paula based and what credential does she hold?
She practises in the United Kingdom and holds BACP accreditation as listed in her profile.
Can I work with her if I live outside the UK?
Yes, she accepts international clients and offers sessions for people who are not located in the United Kingdom.
Which session formats are available?
Sessions can be arranged by video call, phone, live chat or text-based messaging depending on what suits the person.
How are fees handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin therapy with Paula?
Start by clicking the Start Therapy button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to therapist availability.
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